I lucked out. I have an unbelievably wonderful, crazy, dynamic and loving family. I have two amazing brothers, a beautiful sister and parents whom I adore that are still together after nearly 40 years. As a family, we appreciate each other and we make time for each other. Don’t worry, it’s not all perfect, we obviously also drive each other mad but with that said, we have been raised to be truly and unapologetically ourselves… Individuals with respect for the differences that make up who we are.
We have always been close but in the past eight months I feel we have become immeasurably closer. When Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer last September, it shook us all to the core. Not only because she is the powerhouse force that leads our family but because she is energetic, healthy, fit and full of life. Obviously we have all rallied around her, and each other, and taking her lead, we have ploughed through this all too common disease with strength and a sense of humour.
Today, I want to momentarily not focus on that. I want to share an aspect of the situation that I found most interesting: the way it not only forced me to reassess my priorities but the overwhelming sense of gratitude I suddenly felt. As I am sure so many of you will relate, it isn’t until something like this happens to you that you can understand the depth of that moment.. the words are spoken and your world immediately spins to a halt with a suddenness you have never experienced. So much changes instantaneously.
Mum’s illness made me appreciate her more but it also made me truly appreciate my Dad, perhaps for the first time in such a way.
Admittedly, I was so busy for the first few months worrying about Mum, that it took me longer than it should have to think about him within it all. To take notice of how difficult this would be for him. In fact, I realised, I had not really ever thought about how Dad truly was. He was always so steadfast and stable that I’d never had to think about it.
What a metaphor. A moment in time that was so representative of my Dad’s character. He has spent his entire life dedicated to us, rallying around us, supporting us, working for us and doing everything and anything for us. He’d never complained, never asked for thanks, never expected anything in return. He just got on with the show and perpetually put himself last.
Having digested this over the past few months, you can only imagine my joy at discussing the important men in my life with the oh-so-incredibly-fabulous Mr Porter team and, together, coming up with the idea of spoiling my Dad together this coming (UK) Father’s Day. It’s an organic collaboration as I have used Mr Porter for years, buying gifts for others and for home.
Today, Dad, is all about you. I poured myself over the site and chose the pieces I felt you would most like. D R Harris Grooming pieces that are not only luxurious but oh so practical, which I know you will appreciate and the Kingsman x Smythson collaborative pieces that are set to become a steadfast addition to your life, keeping your treasured cufflinks safe. So, to you…
Your relentless support, guidance and encouragement is an inspiration. You are a true gentleman and my only hope in life is that I manage to make you and Mum proud somewhere along the way. Thank you for encouraging me to pursue my passions and chase my dreams. Thank you for allowing me the safe haven of our family which acts as a spring board to jump into life and take the risks I do in my career, knowing I have you all to fall back on.
Happy Father’s Day, today and every day.
Lots of Love, Mines (Oscar, Ellie & Nick) x